I seek your mind to make a great idea i come to you with better. Not so you can dismiss it unless it was the way you wanted or prove me or you right or wrong or smarter?!. i cam for you to encourage me or convince with love that my idea will not work or help me pursue it in the way u think it will. not to erase it or crush my excitement to impress u. I come with u with a final thing for your judgement or approval. I needed your help to work on it together and your support and encouragement. I want us to have an intellectual conversation for once engage me not shun me. Not get defensive and frustrated and make it about me not respecting your mind!! But its either your way and ur way alone or you are not interested. And the more i desperately try to explain so u can make me feel better by acknowledging something ..the more grumpy and offended your are!!! . its my idea obviously u think it is stupid but i didn't think u just wanted to make me feel stupid. If you took your head out of your ass tried to share my visions sometimes u would not only make me feel validated but maybe you may even be proud of me. but looks like i am alone in my thoughts and u are not bothered. I should really take a hint that u are not interested in anything but your vision of everything. I guess i should be thankful that u listen to me in health issues. but thats because you suffer the consequences too. Anyway.. move on tambo stop dreaming of a civilized intellectual conversation. any disagreement is personal and it always ends in resentment on his part and disappointment in mine. WHY CANT HE JUST CARE AND SHARE AND ENCOURAGE AND HELP WHY DOES HE HAVE TO BULLY AND FORCE OR SHUT ME OUT? anyway easy... learn how to not need him or want to share with him anything u think is great. it just backfires.

I dont know how tme being excited to share a great idea with u sometimes ends up as a personal attack on YOUR  perspective. Ofcourse im going to be passionate about something i thought about and was proud of or defend something i already did if it doesnt hurt anyone.

i hope we get over this thing u always fight with me about everything and put malice in it like  am telling u just to prove something but i am just telling u to share things with u because i want to share what i do and my thoughts and my ideas ... because i love u thats how people who love people want to share things and im always excited about it. but u always bicker with me and think i am forcing my opinion or trying to make u feel stupid or something u got to get over that. because i don't think that all and no one .. its really sad that u are always antagonizing me and if i don't have the same opinion u are not interested and u get annoyed and upset ..i mean what am i supposed to do ? just not talk to u about anything important to me and stop sharing things because of your reaction that every thing i do even when its done is just to prove u are wrong? please habibi i mean even if u didn't agree or i think different than u it doesn't mean u cant indulge me shwaya. it is actually a strength that a couple takes in each others perspectives life is a continuing process and we might learn from each other and if we don't want to at least we didn't make each other feel like the other one is just not worth talking to . I want to share my thoughts and experiences with u the way i feel them and if u don't agree u don't have to     turn it into a problem or take it personally we should be open to it and try to see it from each others side u don't even try u just say no and its not like that and shut me down and if i try to explain my point of view u think i am offending u and u get tense and its just negative. i know u are not academic and we are from different generations and u only believe in what you feel and know but give me a chance to use my head and help me through it and understand why i am not thinking like u and then we agree to disagree but just show me that u respect my point of view kaman. I mean im the one who came to u with the issue so whether its my research or a card or plans .. u wont lose anything by supporting me. If u came to me with an idea or something i would understand ur and give u mine and try to help u get what u want without totally demising ur side but maybe compromise .. its all about compromise. like ok my idea is this but how can i integrate ur side so we have a compromise we both are happy with say? not just what i want or what u want and if i don't listen to u u wont have anything to do with it and ur not interested. i don't know how to explain it to u.. just sometimes meet my  enthusiasm and initiative in seeking ur opinion in the hope that u how wonderful i am with some appreciation i do that to u too i always think its great what u are doing and i just tell u my concerns but always support u in the end